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You’re Fired: 6 Things You Need to Know!


What Do You Do If You Lose Your Job?

For many folks who’ve just lost their job, this can be a time of panic, depression, self-doubt and a whole boat full of negative emotions. This might not seem helpful right now if your in this situation, but I know countless folks who, in hindsight, are grateful this happened because it took them down a whole new, better, more fulfilling path.

If your in this scenario, here are some of my tips:

Ask for severance. Employers are afraid of wrongful termination suits. If you are in a protected class, veterans, disabled folks, women, and anyone over 40 are fall in that category. If you are within this category, you have far more leverage to negotiate a severance package. Even if your employer doesn’t offer one, ask for one.

Immediately update your resume. Tons of examples available online.

Reach out to peers, friends and folks in your industry to help you get the word out that you are looking for a new job and/or positive references. Talk with recruiters who can also work on your behalf but never, ever rely solely on one recruiter.

Keep an open mind. When I was looking for a new job recently, thankfully I wasn’t unemployed but my options felt very limited. A former colleague of mine told me to start saying yes to things that seem completely different than what I’m currently imagining. Even if you interview for a position that doesn’t seem like a good fit, a few things could happen…you may find that it’s far more interesting than anticipated, it could lead to other opportunities you are not aware of, or worst case scenario, you’ll gain some practice interviewing.

When filling out applications or meeting with potential employers, “why you left your previous position” will inevitably come up. Here’s the deal: your best bet is to tell the truth but with the most positive spin you can put on it. This will avoid any hang ups in the reference checking process. If you lost your job because you were always late, say that but then explain that you’ve learned a lot since then and put a system in place to avoid that in the future…whatever that may be for you. Many people will appreciate your honesty especially if you explain what you did to fix the issue.

Finally, if you are feeling down on yourself right now, which is very understandable, make sure you find resources that will help keep your spirits lifted. It’s very difficult to put on a brave, smiling face when your feeling awful. Mediate, exercise, meet with folks you can trust, keep a good sleep regime, get out of the house, whatever that looks like to you, please make sure you take those actions. It will certainly help you with the motivation you’ll need to find that next opportunity.

Wish all of you the best of luck. If anyone has any tips, suggestions or personal stories, please post those in the comment section below.

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Job Fairs: 6 Tips that Lead to Success

Job Search: Are Job Fairs Worth Your Time?

Hey folks, welcome to Are job fairs worth your time? The short answer is probably but you have to work it. I’ll explain what I mean by that shortly. Now if I were in the midst of a job search, particularly if I were unemployed, I’d utilize every single resource available to me, including job fairs. But just showing up won’t be enough. When I was a corporate recruiter, we were growing so fast, some months I’d hire as many as 30 people. It was insane. I have worked as a potential employer at countless job searches.

Following are my tips for working a job fair successfully.

1. Most obvious, show up with several copies of a well written resume. If you don’t have, I have a video on how to write one and you can find endless examples with a very simple google search.

2. Show up dressed professionally. Depending on what industry your looking to work in, you may or may not want to wear a suit. If you are in middle management or within a professional industry, you probably won’t find much effectiveness at a job fair but I’d show up wearing a suit. But no matter who you are, at a minimum, you should be dressed business casual. Guys, slacks and a button down, dress shoes, easy. Ladies…for some reason this seems to be more difficult. He’s the low down: nothing skin tight, no stripper heels unless you’re interviewing to be a stripper, no leggings unless it’s for a yoga instructor, no flip flops unless you want to be a life guard. Slacks or skirt that fit properly and a blouse will suffice. If you have tattoos everywhere, cover them up. My boss is literally sickened by tattoos. I certainly don’t feel that way but some people absolutely judge on stuff like that.

3. Do some research if possible. If there’s a list of companies provided, check out their websites. Narrow down your choices so you aren’t wasting anyone’s time especially your own. Plus, if you’re familiar with the company, you can talk about that with the recruiter which is something that will help you stand out. Which leads to my next tip…

4. You gotta stand out without seeming crazy. One woman gave me a resume with a small headshot in the right hand corner which I really appreciated. Sometimes I talked to over 100 people so the likelihood of me remembering someone was slim unless someone really impressed me. If you do this, make sure the headshot is professional and not some stupid instagram selfie with you puckering your lips with a beauty filter.

5. When you speak to the recruiter, to the best of your ability, try to find out what type of positions they need to fill, what sort of qualifications are required for the right candidate, if health benefits are important to you, ask about that and ask the question, “when is a good time for me to follow up with you?”…

6. Finally, and this is super important…FOLLOW UP. But like I said in my last tip, try to determine a good time to do so. When I was working job fairs, I’d drive from college to college to college and it could have been a week before I got back to my office with 300 resumes in my bag. So, in my case, I didn’t want to talk to people for over week. If you had e-mailed me the very next day, well before I was back in the office, your follow up e-mail would get lost in the shuffle. Also, when you follow up, try to express some empathy…I know you’re probably really busy so I wanted to follow up with you regarding our meeting at the blah blah job fair last week. I was always so thankful to someone who seemed like they understood why it might have been taking me a little longer to get back to you. What did not work, was someone who called me with an attitude.

Inspiration is for Amateurs: Just Get to Work

Inspiration is for Amateurs

I recently heard a quote on a Podcast I listened to, the Podcast is called Hidden Brain. They have a series out for summer called You 2.0 which just digs into self-improvement topics. This particular episode was called Deep Work 2.0. The jist of it was that with all the distractions we face, we rarely carve out time to do the “deep work”, whether that’s preparing a business plan, starting a new project or working on that book you’ve been meaning to write.

The guest on the show went on to quote Chuck Close who said, “Inspiration is for Amateurs, the rest of us show up and get to work.” That really resonated with me personally because when it comes to LiveMoreNow, I’ve been woefully short in reaching my goal of posting one video per week. To summarize Chuck, if we sit around waiting for that “aha” moment, we may never get started. The idea of getting to work is that things and ideas will arise from the process itself. He also says that process can be liberating and we don’t have to reinvent the wheel everyday.

So many times in my life I’ve been paralyzed by not knowing where to start. When I look back, it’s the times when I just plowed ahead that were the most rewarding because almost every time, something came out of that. Maybe I didn’t complete an amazing project, but I might have learned something new that took my imagination in a whole other, unanticipated direction.

Here at LiveMoreNow, the whole foundation is making changes through small steps. Many of us wait around for the motivation to get started and in truth, action creates motivation. I do have some other videos discussing similar topics such as decision making and not getting overly wrapped up in the analysis of it all.

If you are just really feeling like you are not in the mood to do something, exercising, reading, whatever, try the 5 minute rule…just tell yourself you’re only going to do something for 5 minutes and if you want to stop afterward, you can. Many times, perhaps more often than not, you’ll keep going.

I would encourage you to think about what it is that you would love to do…think big picture. Even if that seems unattainable, figure out the tiniest step you could take today to move toward that goal. And then, as Chuck Close said, just show up and get to work and if you hang in there, you’ll get somewhere.

I’d love to hear any personal stories from you in the comment section below. Thanks for visiting